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    Karen Black October 29, 2019 at 8:54pm

    I asked a male friend of mine this because I thought it might help you to get a mans perspective. This was what he said:-

    Everyone grieves differently, also it makes a difference if the one who is grieving lives alone or with others and what relationship they have with those others. Having the other parent alive or not also has an impact. The grief lessens a bit after the funeral. Having a job is good as it forces you to mix with other people and concentrate on average daily things. The best thing is to have a hobby. It does not need to be a new hobby, just something you enjoy and are interested in. The point here is not to keep busy but to relax and enjoy what you do. Over time doing this will give you a different perspective and help you to heal from your grief.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Bogart Green October 29, 2019 at 2:47pm

    Im so sorry for your loss... as you know in the last three years I have lost two grandmothers, one grandfather, two uncles, one aunt, a shaman teacher, and my dad... it’s not easy... but I will tell you what has helped me.  I  planted grass and plants in my front yard in honor of my dad...  also making an alter in your home... with pictures and small things that belonged to my dad... I have also found that right after my dad had passed away, that my vibration lowered. It attracted some, what I would call bottom feeders...  They would give me nightmares and also tried to attack me as soon as I woke up...  I found that doing small meditations to raze my vibration was really important at this time... so these so those bottom feeder spirits would go away... those lower vibration spirits can drain your energy, cause you to become sick, and give you nightmares... so it’s really important at this time to focus on self care and keeping your vibrations up.... I’ve also been told it takes about three days for a newly passed spirit to find there way back to you... I found this not to be true.. my shaman teacher was in contact the very next day... other spirits cross over right away... I think fir me... the most important thing was honoring my father with the plants I planted and making a small shrine somewhere in my home... and to just give myself time.... and know that there is no right way to grieve... everyone does there grieving different... so just give yourself time and reach out to others... oh yes... that’s another important thing... don’t isolate yourself... a small amount of time alone is ok... but not to much.. I found that when I isolated to much.. I just became stuck..... I’m here for you... you have my number... call or text anytime... we can talk about anything...  sorry this is not written in any order....  

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